來自哈佛的20個建議：不亂于心，方能不畏將來

導(dǎo)讀：成功之人，一定是能夠不被焦慮所驅(qū)使的。人人都擔(dān)心錯失機會，只有能在洶涌人潮中保持獨立判斷、珍惜分秒，又能懂得感激、欣賞挑戰(zhàn)、知曉適時放手之人，才能真正享受時代的浪潮。

 

一年伊始，當(dāng)舊事尚未全清，新事接踵而來之際，誘惑、焦慮交織蔓延，亦容易借由他人的狂熱而被激化與放大。然則，唯有不亂于心，方能不畏將來。如果你正好有一些這樣的困惑，希望這篇文章對你有所幫助。Enjoy：

 

 

01 Be grateful

學(xué)會感激

 

Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner’s eyes.

 

讓自己變慢腳步，看看你的四周，關(guān)注生活中的細(xì)微之處：人行道上淡紫色的花，美麗的日落，洗去你一天疲憊的淋浴，伴侶眼中的笑容。

 

When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify, wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.

 

當(dāng)你的感恩之心能夠欣賞生活的美，思考和祝福，你自然就充滿了幸福感。

 

 

02 Choose your friends wisely

明智地選擇自己的朋友

 

According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.

 

根據(jù)哈佛，影響個人幸福最重要的外部因素是人際關(guān)系。所以如果你想變得開心的話，要選擇和樂觀的朋友在一起，他們能欣賞真實的你，讓你的生活變得更豐富、快樂、有意義。

 

 

03 Cultivate compassion

培養(yǎng)同情心

 

When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.

 

當(dāng)我們代替別人，站在另一個角度看問題，我們更能用同情心，客觀和有效地處理問題。生活中就會少一些沖突，多一點快樂。

 

 

04 Keep learning

不斷學(xué)習(xí)

 

Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.

 

學(xué)習(xí)讓我們保持年輕，夢想讓我們充滿活力。我們運用大腦，進行運作的時候，我們就不大會想不開心的事情，我們會變得更開心和滿足。

 

 

05 Become a problem solver

學(xué)會解決問題

 

Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead, they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way.The result? You’ll have more happiness in your life.

 

開心的人是會解決問題的人。在生活中遇到挑戰(zhàn)的時候，他們不會自虐，然后變得很消沉。他們會直面挑戰(zhàn)，調(diào)動全身力量尋找解決辦法。通過變成一個解決問題的人，你會建立自己的自信心和下決心要的事情和直面挑戰(zhàn)的能力。結(jié)果是你在生活中將更加擁有更多快樂。

 

 

06 Do what you love

做你想做的事情

 

Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. It’s one of life’s greatest blessings to find a line of work that we’re deeply passionate about and that utilizes our greatest gifts. If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.

 

既然我們成人生活的三分之一時間都在工作，那么做我們想做的事對我們的整體幸福感就有很大的影響。做自己最熱愛的工作并把天賦發(fā)揮最大化，這是人生最大的幸福之一。如果現(xiàn)在不能做你想做的事情，那就試著在你現(xiàn)在的工作中尋找快樂和意義，或者培養(yǎng)一個你喜愛的興趣。

 

07 Live in the present

活在當(dāng)下

 

When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you’re living in the present.

 

你感到沮喪，是因為你活在過去。你會感到擔(dān)憂和焦慮，是因為你活在未來。但是當(dāng)你感到滿足，開心和平和時，你才是活在當(dāng)下。

 

08 Laugh often

要經(jīng)常笑

 

Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.

 

笑是對抗生氣或沮喪最有力的的東西。研究表明簡單的嘴巴上揚也可以增加你的幸福感。不要把生活看得太嚴(yán)肅。要學(xué)會在每日的奮斗中尋找幽默感和笑聲。

 

 

09 Practice forgiveness

學(xué)會原諒

 

Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re actually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.

 

憎恨和生氣是對自我的懲罰。當(dāng)你釋懷的時候，事實上你是在對自己施以善意。最重要的是，學(xué)會原諒自己。每個人都會犯錯。只有通過我們的錯誤，我們才慢慢學(xué)會如何成為一個更強大，更好的人。

 

10 Say thanks often

要經(jīng)常說謝謝

 

Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way, big or small.

 

對生活中的祝福要學(xué)會欣賞。向那些讓你生活變好的人，無論或大或小，表達出你的欣賞之情也同樣重要。

 

 

11 Create deeper connections

學(xué)會深交

 

Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.

 

我們的幸福感會在和另一個人的交往中不斷猛增。專注聆聽是加強這種關(guān)系紐帶和把幸福感帶給自己和別人的兩個最重要的方面。

 

 

12 Keep your agreement

守承諾

 

Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself. Do what you say you’re going to do.

 

我們的自尊是建立在我們對自己守承諾的情況下。高度的自尊和幸福感有直接關(guān)聯(lián)。所以要對自己和別人遵守承諾。言出必行。

 

13 Meditate

冥想

 

According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.

 

平均上，上過8次冥想訓(xùn)練的人要比控制狂多開心20%。這樣的訓(xùn)練可以導(dǎo)致大腦結(jié)構(gòu)變化，包括海馬體黑色物質(zhì)的密度，其對學(xué)習(xí)和記憶很重要，在結(jié)構(gòu)上和自我意識，同情心和反省。

 

14 Focus on what you’re doing

關(guān)注你在做的事情

 

When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!

 

當(dāng)你全身心投入一件事的時候，你就會處于一個開心的狀態(tài)。當(dāng)我們處于這種狀態(tài)，你就不大會關(guān)心別人對你怎么看，不大會被不大重要的事情干擾。結(jié)果呢？更幸福。

 

15 Be optimistic

要樂觀

 

For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.

 

對于開心的人來說，玻璃水杯一直是半滿的。每當(dāng)你面對一個挑戰(zhàn)時，如果你傾向于想象最壞的想法，那就自我轉(zhuǎn)換這種情況。告訴你自己一個狀況中的好處或者你從中學(xué)到的東西。樂觀肯定能驅(qū)動成功和幸福感。

 

16 Love unconditionally

無條件的愛

 

No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.

 

沒人是完美的。接受你自己所有的不完美。也要這樣對待別人。無條件的愛一個人并不意味著你要花所有的時間和他們在一起，或者幫助他們解決問題。無條件的愛意味著接受真實的他們，以他們自己的步伐，讓他們自己摸索。

 

17 Don’t give up.

不要放棄

 

Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.

 

沒有完成的方案和不斷的失敗不可避免會削弱你的自尊。如果你決定做某事，做完它。在成功之前都不要放棄。要記住，失敗是暫時的，打敗的永存的。只有當(dāng)你放棄的時候，你才會被打敗。

 

 

18 Do your best and then let go

做最好的自己，然后放手

 

Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have no regrets.

 

每個人都有局限性。而且有時候盡管我們很努力做一件事情，但是總會事與愿違。所以做最好的自己，然后放手。當(dāng)你盡了全力，你就沒有遺憾了。

 

19 Take care of yourself

好好照顧自己

 

A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.

 

一個健康的身體是幸福的關(guān)鍵。如果你身體不好，你無論如何努力，都很難快樂。確信自己吃得好，做鍛煉，找點時間休息。好好照顧你的身體，大腦和精神。

 

20 Give back

學(xué)會給予

 

Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.

 

做好事是最能確保你心情好的方法之一。根據(jù)哈佛，人們做好事，他們的大腦變得活躍，就好像當(dāng)你經(jīng)歷別的獎勵時，大腦所受的刺激。所以，那些關(guān)心別人的人要比不大關(guān)心別人的人更開心。